# Beyond Erections > Sexual pleasure and intimacy with erectile differences ## Posts - [How to introduce a soft cock](https://beyonderections.com/getting-to-know-a-soft-cock/) - [Reaching through the glass wall: sexual pleasure on ADT and estradiol](https://beyonderections.com/sexual-pleasure-on-adt-and-estradiol/) - [Alternative ways to introduce hardness](https://beyonderections.com/men-using-strap-on-dildo/) - [Come As You Are: what men can learn](https://beyonderections.com/come-as-you-are-what-men-can-learn/): For ten years, women have benefited from the wisdom and ground-breaking research contained in Emily Nagoski’s New York Time bestseller Come As You Are. Now it is time for men – especially those with erectile differences – to learn parallel lessons. As Nagoski says What I need is to hear that it is okay to feel sad that my body will never be what is used to be. I put a lot of effort into learning to love that body, and now I have got to start all over again learning to love this one. It’s tough to learn to love [...] - [Anti-erectile hormonal mechanisms](https://beyonderections.com/anti-erectile-hormonal-mechanisms/) - [It doesn’t have to be hard to be fun, fulfilling, and phenomenal](https://beyonderections.com/beyond-erections-conversation/): The first live open global online conversation about my Beyond Erections book will be on Saturday, July 19 at 1 pm Eastern time. You are invited! [Editor’s note: See post-event feedback below] The event will be hosted by the wonderful somatic sexuality expert Erica Leroye in conversation with me. She’s the curator of the amazing website and community It Doesn’t Have To Be Hard. Formerly known as Soft Cock Week, this celebration of softer sexual creativity helped inspire the writing of Beyond Erections. Beyond erections conversation A penis is an exquisitely sensitive body part for its owner. It can be [...] - [Pro-erectile mechanisms](https://beyonderections.com/pro-erectile-mechanisms/) - [Softly celebrating Masturbation May](https://beyonderections.com/soft-penis-masturbation/) - [McGyvering sex](https://beyonderections.com/mcgyvering-sex/) - [Addressing male sexual function in a fresh way](https://beyonderections.com/addressing-male-sexual-function-in-a-fresh-way/): All too often, says men’s sex coach Cam Fraser, people treat the male body like a machine. As if “male sexual function is something that needs mechanical fixing.” In our conversation last month he welcomed Beyond Erections as a “beautiful holistic pleasure-oriented approach to soft cock sex, exploring intimacy and sex without erections … in a way that is sorely missing from most conversations about male sexuality.” About the book, he says “there is nothing else like it” in world literature on male sexuality. It was a privilege to reconnect with Cam Fraser, who is less than half my age [...] - [Discussing the undiscussable, part 1: name changes](https://beyonderections.com/discussing-the-undiscussable/): My book was summarily ditched by Amazon ten days ago. It was only thanks to three trusty bricks-and-mortar booksellers, each with online portals, that it remained available from April 2nd until now. Here’s the story of what it has taken to get global supplies flowing freely again. The story points to some of the many lessons to be learned about discussing socially awkward and undiscussable topics. The book is a respectful and practical work of adult sex exploration and education. It brings a sex-positive approach to the erectile differences that affect half of all men over 50 and their partners. [...] - [Guest review: Gateway to much-needed conversations](https://beyonderections.com/soft-cock-sex-book-review/) - [Hard vs soft: primal vs intimate](https://beyonderections.com/hard-and-soft-sex/): What many people miss the most about hard cock sex is its primal nature. There is something about both giving and receiving raw lustful penetration that seems to take many of us into our animal cores in a very satisfying way. On the other hand, most of us crave sensual intimacy. If sex and even loving touch break down in our relationships we are bereft. The loss of touch has a measurable negative impact on physical and mental health. What I have found is that softer sex actually promotes sensual intimacy more than hard driving penetrative sex does – at [...] - [Guest poem: I lie here on the couch expectantly](https://beyonderections.com/sex-with-ed/) - [Adapting sexually to body changes](https://beyonderections.com/adapting-sexually-to-body-changes/) - [Infinite variety of orgasms](https://beyonderections.com/variety-of-orgasms/): Orgasms come in every shape, size and form. This is more easy to appreciate by people who don’t have hard penises. It also means that along with loss, there is something to gain for men when our bodies change. When we open to more possibilities, more possibilities can be unlocked in our relationships. I lived most of my life with hard, persistent erections and I love the pleasure they can give. Recently I have learned a lot about a whole rainbow of different orgasmic variety, since I was inducted into the world of softer sex five years ago in the [...] ## Pages - [Book availability](https://beyonderections.com/book-availability-april-2025/): Book Availability News 2 April 2025 You can still get the book (in person or online) with the original cover via the following recommended retailers: Passionfruit – Australia Come as You Are – Canada Indigo – Canada 8 April 2025 The new edition of my book is out now – with a new title Beyond Erections, and a strategically placed digital “fig leaf” on the cover image to satisfy the requirements of my distributors. I also hope to offer you more choice of supply chains in future. You can buy it online, in eBook and paperback format now!   10 [...] - [Reader Feedback](https://beyonderections.com/reader-feedback/) - [Tell your story](https://beyonderections.com/tell-your-story/): Living with erectile differences Your story should be told – in a way that suits you. This could be in your own private hand written journal, or to your partner, or perhaps you might like to tell me. As a reader of Soft Cock Sex, you have heard the pioneering stories of men with soft penises and their partners. And every person and couple’s story is different. I invite you to share yours, confidentially, at the link below. If you submit your story using the link below, I promise that:  Your soft cock story will be read but no action [...] - [Copyright](https://beyonderections.com/copyright/): Copyright Notice The contents of this website are copyright ©2025 Mish Middelmann. All rights reserved. All trademarks mentioned herein belong to their respective owners. 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