In honour of Masturbation Month, I invited readers in May 2025 to share anonymously the ways they pleasure themselves with soft cocks. Here’s the most comprehensive soft penis masturbation response I got. The only background information available is what the author provided in the anonymous form. Where I have added a note for clarity I have put my comment in square brackets [].

Here’s how our featured contributor summarizes his situation:

My ED arose from a radical prostatectomy in 2009. Now at 73 it looks like there is a contribution from advancing age although I can’t really measure that. I do have some nocturnal erections and sometimes wake with 3 or 4 size erection (on a scale of 1 to 10).

Read on to find out how he pleasures himself without erections. He also provides practical suggestions to expand your own possibilities for soft cock pleasure.

Self pleasuring beyond erections

My favourite morning routine upon waking is to start self touch to take advantage of morning tumescence. I use a ribbed constriction ring with a light constriction to retain blood in my penis.

Then I bring more blood into the penis over a period of say 15 minutes. I use good old fashioned fantasizing along with some light stroking. I also enjoy more vigorous movements with my hands in a fire-starting motion. I’ve discovered that a second higher strength ring applied above the first ring can be helpful in retaining the blood that comes in with time.

Pleasure beyond the penis

Throughout my self pleasuring sessions, I am creating a high level of pleasure with no real expectation to get my penis rock hard. Attention to other zones of my body brings more penile pleasure as well. Mouth, chest, inner thighs and anus all can come into play as I move to orgasm perhaps after 30 to 40 minutes.

I have only developed this routine in the last couple of years as I have learned to access pleasure from different parts of my body and mind.

How I support my erections

I’m taking a daily low dose of a PDE5i drug, Tadalafil [generic Cialis]. I use a [vacuum erectile device] pump in the shower most days to maintain good penile health. I use trimix injections on some occasions if I want that feeling of a rock-hard erection.

Slow vibration on the perineum [the sensitive area between scrotum and anus]. I use a combo constriction and vibration device called a We Vibe Bond. Often I just use it to constrict the flaccid penis and testicles without turning on the vibration.

Tips for soft penis self pleasure

• Be selfish in allowing as much time as you need to get to know what works for you. Take time to find out what parts of your body can produce an enhancement of your genital pleasure. Do this with no focus at all on getting and maintaining any erection at all.
• Try a range of lubes, silicon, water based and perhaps none at all to feel the differences.
• Change the temperatures of the situation you are in. For example at the end of a session when your body is warm from masturbating in the shower, place your back against the cold of the glass shower screen to enhance the chances of a good orgasm.
• Get a little help from constriction rings if you need to hold that arterial blood in your penis.
• Develop a good range of fantasies based on possibilities that relate to the present, the future and also to past desires.
• Be open to gaining pleasure by focusing solely on the pleasure of your partner.

[Editor’s note: The above was given to me by an anonymous reader celebrating Masturbation May in 2025, lightly edited for clarity and with hyperlinks added. Big thanks to the author for his frank, honest and practical contribution. For more ideas, you might like to read Beyond Erections]