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By Monique When somebody mentions Erectile Dysfunction (ED) I don't necessarily think 'problem', I think 'opportunity'. Now some of you may just want things back the way they were before, when you were younger, before you had surgery, before you had physical or mental trauma. I get that. And for some, there is a way back. But for many - we just need to move on and deal with the new normal, whatever that may be. Rethinking arousal, erection, orgasm, ejaculation and refraction I believe that our minds and not our genitals are in fact our real sexual organ. [...]

It's awkward talking about ED with a partner or date. Yet erectile differences are just one example of how bodies often function in unexpected ways during sex. Erectile differences are actually more common, and more normal than porn and the Viagra marketers would have us think. With time, courage and care, we can get beyond the awkwardness. In a live global conversation on Zoom on August 31st, we will explore ways to make these conversations just a little less awkward. Our focus will be on how to talk with a partner or prospective partner about erectile differences – yours [...]

Of all the toys and sex aids I have tried since my erections got less solid, the Tenuto 2 vibrator is the best at engaging my whole pelvis in sexual pleasure. I feel like it treats me as more than just a penis. It is also an excellent way to enhance and support "semi" erections without the drawbacks of tighter cock rings. While there are some aspects that are still work-in-progress, I think many penis owners will enjoy this quality device. It looks weird but it works The first thing I noticed is the surprising shape. It is designed [...]

By Adrian How to love this body no matter what, is the question. How to accept changes whether caused by illness, accidents or age. This is what I have to work with. It is beautiful when I allow feelings of beauty to inhabit me, in my body as it is now, after all the changes of age and surgery. In my mind I am more aroused and attracted when I see a member plump, for it represents some state of arousal. But when I sense or feel my own member, I don't focus so much on whether it is [...]

After a year in print, the awkwardness of conversations about my book has driven home just how socially undiscussable erectile differences are. Yet there is a hunger for authentic open conversations about this awkward topic. People thrive on sensual pleasure. Erectile differences, difficult though they can be, definitely don't need to block sensual and sexual satisfaction. Readers from their 20s to their 70s, of all genders and sexual orientations, showed up at my first in-person book launch last month. Their energy started a remarkable intergenerational conversation about sex with erectile differences. It was amazing and the conversation must go [...]

By Tim D. I generally need a cock ring to support my erections. In my bag of o-rings there is an old brass one (pictured above) that was originally from a horse harness. It's from the days when my family farm used real horsepower to work the land and to go to town. It's the perfect size for my penis. I have used and worn it for more than thirty years. Being rigid, it was always a bit of a procedure to put it on. I would put one testicle through, then pull some scrotal skin through to make [...]

For too long, sex with erectile differences has been largely undiscussable, apart from Viagra and similar advertisements. But this month two of the world's major newspapers have published positive articles about re-imagining erectionless sex and adapting sexually to body changes for men. I have also begun tracking down the roots of the new thinking in medical and sex therapy writing. Here's what people in the mainstream have begun saying about sex where there is a soft or unreliably hard cock in the mix. Older adults improving sex span On March 5, the New York Times (NYT) published a very positive [...]

Many people literally don't know what to do with a penis that isn't hard. Honestly, for the owner of the soft cock and their sexual partner, it is a whole new ball game. The penis owner needs to get to know his own new body - and reintroduce his soft penis to his partner(s). Introducing a soft cock to anyone takes courage. For many partners, this will be a novel experience. It will go better if the penis owner does the introduction without shame. For me, between the ages of 12 and 60, it was unimaginable to introduce a [...]

By Timothy I've been on androgen deprivation treatment (ADT) since March 2024 - I've had literally no testosterone in my body for more than a year and a half. Yet it is important to me to remain sexual no matter what. Being on ADT, it often feels like pleasure and orgasm are on the other side of a sheet of glass. I can see them but I can't quite reach them. When I first had my testosterone taken away by ADT, I could still orgasm for the first few weeks.  Then I just lost that ability. I cried for [...]

When the cock in your life is soft, that isn't necessarily the end of the harder side of sex. Some partners love it when people use strap-on dildos or penile extension sleeves to enable more robust penetrative sex without needing a flesh-and-blood penis to be hard. What follows are just two real life stories from heterosexual couples. They are by no means the only ways to play sexually beyond erections. Wife invites husband to use strap-on dildo Here's the full anonymous post from the Facebook group comment excerpted in the image above, shared to simply expand your sense of [...]