When the cock in your life is soft, that isn’t necessarily the end of the harder side of sex. Some partners love it when people use strap-on dildos or penile extension sleeves to enable more robust penetrative sex without needing a flesh-and-blood penis to be hard. What follows are just two real life stories from heterosexual couples. They are by no means the only ways to play sexually beyond erections.

Wife invites husband to use strap-on dildo

Here’s the full anonymous post from the Facebook group comment excerpted in the image above, shared to simply expand your sense of what is possible:

I just love the exuberance of this, the sheer enjoyment of being filled, and the reciprocity of giving and receiving pleasure according to what each partner enjoys. As a penis owner, I recognise the part of me that is wired to thrust. Penetrative sex was obviously something both partners missed – and hooray for a man wearing a strap-on dildo in a way that obviously works for this couple.

It’s not for everyone. Some people simply love softer sex and nothing in this post should take that away from them. But if you do like penetrating or being penetrated, here’s more.

Intermediate solutions – penis extender sleeves

Another reader called CB responded “Clearly you are not alone. So many couples struggling & trying to figure this out. We just tried a penile sleeve to increase girth & length a bit. I do the Bimix shot, then slide this thing on. Lotta fun. Then take it off and keep on going.”

In a follow up private conversation, CB shared more about the experience:

I’ve lost some length & girth. Which def bothered me. And my wife also shared that she missed the feeling of the old member. So we explored the sleeve option. I wasn’t sure it would work but I fit in just fine with a Bimix erection. It’s possible I over-lubricated the interior. There is supposed to be “some” friction.

For me it feels good because we are close & lots of skin contact and because I can hear her pleasure from it. It’s actually perhaps a little too big (for her). When she climaxed, I removed the sleeve and entered bc I still had an erection. That, of course, brought me way more sensation.

Anyway, we were both really happy with this added tool & feeling of experimentation.

Like many of us, I get into a funk about not being able to perform as I once did. And feeling like I have disappointed my 51-yr old wife (9 years younger than I am.) And i always fret about the shots NOT working. But they always have worked. Just my anxiety kicks in.

Anyway the sleeve also made us laugh which is a welcome aspect.

It’s an honour to share these real live experiences. It takes a lot to get over the loss of the bodies we wished we had, and then to shed limiting beliefs about how a man has to be to satisfy his partner. It turns out there are more options, and more fun to be had, than seemed possible.

I’d love you to tell your story about your own creative ways of being sexual beyond erections, regardless of your gender identity or sexual orientation.